Grab a journal. And get ready to #DoTheWork.
Journaling Prompt #1: Where in life are you setting yourself on fire, just to keep others warm? How does this work in your favor? What does it feel like? What boundaries can you set?
You can start eating more greens, cut out the ‘evil’ gluten, count your macros, etc. ... but until you fix what’s going on in your head— you won’t have much success fixing what goes on your plate. We underestimate the power of our environment. Family, friends, significant others, and coworkers all play a role in whether we succeed in our lifestyle change. Light some candles, find a quiet 5-10 minutes, ask for privacy, and just get curious around where you’re lighting yourself on fire to keep others warm. 📝Example: Alcohol makes me feel like crap, and I actually don’t enjoy going to the bar. But my friends love going out to the bar, and that’s the only place they spend their weekend nights, and I want to spend time with them. This doesn’t work out in my favor. The next morning I wake up with anxiety. Wondering if I said or did something that isn’t like me. I feel tired, unmotivated, and I eat fried foods to feel better. It feels like I’m making myself do something I know I don’t want to do. And it feels unaligned with the goals I have for myself. Boundaries I can set: ✔️ Asking friends to do something else, plan to go somewhere that doesn’t have alcohol involved. (Paint night, axe throwing, cooking class, etc.) ✔️ Talk out loud about my goals to the people around me, keep them in the loop of where I could use their support. (Not asking me to drink, seeing if someone wants to be my accountability partner, etc.) ✔️ If people are unsupportive or make light of my goals/feelings— they are not my people.